Comments on: Covey’s habit 5: Seek first to understand and then to be understood http://beanoriginal.net/coveys_habit_5_/ feeding your inner rebel Mon, 08 Mar 2010 12:36:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Struggles with Proactivity « In Search of Effectiveness - My Journey Journey Toward Becoming an “Effective” Person http://beanoriginal.net/coveys_habit_5_/#comment-168 Struggles with Proactivity « In Search of Effectiveness - My Journey Journey Toward Becoming an “Effective” Person Fri, 09 Jan 2009 02:53:01 +0000 http://lodewijkvdb.com/blog/2007/06/coveys-habit-5-seek-first-to-understand-and-then-to-be-understood/#comment-168 [...] on the way to the meeting, I listened to the “Empathic Listening” segment of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.  It reminded me that I could not be [...] [...] on the way to the meeting, I listened to the “Empathic Listening” segment of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.  It reminded me that I could not be [...]

]]> By: 9 Tips For Becoming A Better Listener - Practical advice on personal development, productivity and GTD http://beanoriginal.net/coveys_habit_5_/#comment-167 9 Tips For Becoming A Better Listener - Practical advice on personal development, productivity and GTD Mon, 21 Jul 2008 08:55:36 +0000 http://lodewijkvdb.com/blog/2007/06/coveys-habit-5-seek-first-to-understand-and-then-to-be-understood/#comment-167 [...] Listen to understand, not to be understood How many times has this happened to you? You have an idea or experience that you are very excited to share with someone and when you finally do, they immediately steal the stage, relating it to something they have experienced. You are now flustered and try to steal the stage back, then both of you jockey for the front position and no one listens to anyone. Instead of really digesting what someone is saying, you are just waiting for an opening so you can talk. This type of a conversation is not beneficial to anyone involved and it develops bad habits. [...] [...] Listen to understand, not to be understood How many times has this happened to you? You have an idea or experience that you are very excited to share with someone and when you finally do, they immediately steal the stage, relating it to something they have experienced. You are now flustered and try to steal the stage back, then both of you jockey for the front position and no one listens to anyone. Instead of really digesting what someone is saying, you are just waiting for an opening so you can talk. This type of a conversation is not beneficial to anyone involved and it develops bad habits. [...]

]]> By: rob http://beanoriginal.net/coveys_habit_5_/#comment-166 rob Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:56:56 +0000 http://lodewijkvdb.com/blog/2007/06/coveys-habit-5-seek-first-to-understand-and-then-to-be-understood/#comment-166 I'm enjoying this series and I think I'll be getting the book. Interested in empathic listening and wondered if you have you come across "Clean Language" - It would tie in well with your NLP studies I think. I've found it very useful myself in getting really into clear communication. Check out http://www.cleanlanguage.co.uk/ for an introduction to it. I’m enjoying this series and I think I’ll be getting the book.

Interested in empathic listening and wondered if you have you come across “Clean Language” – It would tie in well with your NLP studies I think. I’ve found it very useful myself in getting really into clear communication. Check out http://www.cleanlanguage.co.uk/ for an introduction to it.

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