Comments on: There is a positive intention motivating every behavior http://beanoriginal.net/there-is-a-positive-intention-motivating-every-behavior/ feeding your inner rebel Wed, 08 Feb 2012 12:41:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lodewijkvdb http://beanoriginal.net/there-is-a-positive-intention-motivating-every-behavior/#comment-600 Lodewijkvdb Thu, 22 Nov 2007 15:45:06 +0000 http://blog.lodewijkvdb.com/2007/11/there-is-a-positive-intention-motivating-every-behavior.html#comment-600 I can't really see the contradiction there Tom. Let's say I ask someone to write a review about my blog, it clearly is with a positive intention for me. If the person reponds by cursing and calling me names, the meaning of my question obviously triggered something in the other person. My intention was still positive, the outcome is unexpected and unwanted. So if I still want that person to write that review, I should try another communication... with the same positive intention. If it triggers another reponse, that's the new meaning. I feel both presuppositions still hold. This is a fictional example by the way :) I can’t really see the contradiction there Tom.

Let’s say I ask someone to write a review about my blog, it clearly is with a positive intention for me. If the person reponds by cursing and calling me names, the meaning of my question obviously triggered something in the other person. My intention was still positive, the outcome is unexpected and unwanted. So if I still want that person to write that review, I should try another communication… with the same positive intention. If it triggers another reponse, that’s the new meaning.

I feel both presuppositions still hold. This is a fictional example by the way :)

]]> By: Tom http://beanoriginal.net/there-is-a-positive-intention-motivating-every-behavior/#comment-601 Tom Tue, 20 Nov 2007 08:58:21 +0000 http://blog.lodewijkvdb.com/2007/11/there-is-a-positive-intention-motivating-every-behavior.html#comment-601 Most of the time I find it easier to discover the good intentions in observing others, then when actions or requests are addressed directly at me. You do have a point when it comes to committing crime, most of the time they want a better life for themselves or their loved ones. Failing all other options, they reside to crime. As far as my sympathy goes, I do feel there is a good intention, but not for everyone, only them self. As one of your previous articles mentions, it's not only about you, but also the effect you have on others. They will see it someday, hopefully not to late. This does somehow feel like it contradicts with http://blog.lodewijkvdb.com/2007/09/the-meaning-of-the-communication-is-the-response-you-get.html If all intention is good, and the outcome is not good, then this does sound paradoxical. Most of the time I find it easier to discover the good intentions in observing others, then when actions or requests are addressed directly at me.
You do have a point when it comes to committing crime, most of the time they want a better life for themselves or their loved ones. Failing all other options, they reside to crime. As far as my sympathy goes, I do feel there is a good intention, but not for everyone, only them self. As one of your previous articles mentions, it’s not only about you, but also the effect you have on others. They will see it someday, hopefully not to late.

This does somehow feel like it contradicts with http://blog.lodewijkvdb.com/2007/09/the-meaning-of-the-communication-is-the-response-you-get.html
If all intention is good, and the outcome is not good, then this does sound paradoxical.

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